The best of anything lies in the hard work you're avoiding. In this case, it's that generational reset.
You really do have to adopt the lively adventurer persona if you're going to go back into the past. It's not just the things you've experienced, but it's also about those who came before you. I'm sure you've heard of generational trauma by now, and if you haven't, I welcome you to the dark side.
Everyone who's had to listen to the story of how treacherous our parents' journey to school was, say I. They were right. They really did have to battle to get somewhere, and so did our grandparents, and so did our great grandparents. Whilst I'm still sceptical about them having to single-handily fight off a frenzy of wild cobras with their folders on their heads, I do believe them when they say they've had it rough. In a sense, we are the luckiest of our bloodline, until the next generation is born. Depending on your background and culture, our ancestors had to endure abusive upbringings, neglect from structures our society stands on, and we're not going to skip over slavery. Having to live through these things does a number on a person and it's not something you can come back from lightly. Hence why we're still working through the ripples of effect these things had.
To name an example of how the problems still linger in our families, let's start with wealth. Me and my friend were talking the other day about how our initial mindsets about money were rooted in lack. This is because we've seen in some way or another how our families, friends or neighbours have struggled financially. When your ancestors are growing up in times when their mere presence was not accepted let alone allowed to thrive in a workplace, it can alter the course of your own generational wealth. They were indirectly being taught that they aren't worthy to have financial freedom just because of the way they were inherently born. It doesn't make sense, does it? It never has but that's a conversation for another day. Let's take it forwards to when our parents were growing up watching their own parents miss out on the bag. At no fault of their own, they just weren't in spaces that valued them or their labour. They were delegated into low level roles, being told that they don't deserve even the opportunity to earn enough for a comfortable lifestyle. The subsequent issue your parents now face is impostor syndrome. The innate feeling that you don't belong somewhere. Particularly in a space that reflects your worth in the benefits. This is something we're still escaping, and I can say it is not easy.
Now ask yourself how many times you denied yourself an opportunity because you didn't feel worthy of it. I bet it's more times than you'd like to admit. This idea of impostor syndrome and feeling undeserving isn't just limited to the job you have or the money you want to make. It can be seen in every little aspect of your life. Wealth is just one the great examples that showcases how your root beliefs can influence your whole being. If we go a step further, we can touch on your literal root chakra. It covers your sense of security and stability in the physical and your identity too. These things are all intertwined, so now can you picture how if one part is off, they likely all are. Often, we don't notice it. We may believe that what we go through and have right now is just our pick of the draw but it isn't at all. The core beliefs that have been passed down to us affect what we ultimately attract into our lives so if you don't believe you're worthy of that amazing job, then what you're also saying is you're not worthy of anything else that vibrates on that great frequency. It's a lot to grapple with but even realizing it is a win for you and everyone after you.
My belief is that the reason a lot of us are afraid to uncover where our truths come from, is because we're scared to debunk what we've based our whole existence off. Having to transform the ways that you habitually think is easier said than done. It means acknowledging that there's a current flaw and that it's going to take a ton of work to retrain your mind. I don't think that there's a single person out there who would regard this work as easy and mean it. As it's directly linked to your foundational beliefs, this kind of work requires you to micro examine everything you've built not only your life on, but yourself too. That is one hard long look in the mirror so you can't blame some for not wanting to open their eyes.
The bright side: addressing these notions will positively impact everything from the minute you begin. It's rewriting your own history for those waiting to be born into your bloodline. Yes, it's a huge thing for just you but good news, you'll come to realize that it is you. The almighty you who's birth right is nothing less than fabulous-ness. You don’t fit the mould that was created for you and your family to fit. You never did. That's one of the many great things this kind of journey can show you. I can personally attest to this. As I'm in the midst of putting together the pieces of my dreams, I realized that I wasn't thinking big enough. And this was because I was trying to visualize these things through a distorted lens. I knew I had to think way bigger than I had ever thought possible in every way. So now, I make it my goal to outdo every idea that I've ever had based on the restrictions that were passed down through my family.
If after making it to this point, you realized you want to embark on this adventure but you're not sure how. I have a couple tips.
1. Accept where you came from, and embrace where you're going!
It sounds oh so simple and sweet, and I'm personally still choosing to believe that it is. Accepting where your existence originates from is a crazy concept because although you haven't lived them, there are events that happened that directly caused you to be here as the person you are. It can be quite tricky to fully understand that, but it's the first step to also accepting your future. Realize that there is no rewriting the past and be excited for the fact that you can create your future destiny from here. I'm your cliche reminder that everything happens for a reason.
2. Find a deconstruction partner.
Being able to dissect your past on your own is a near impossible task. It can become quite overwhelming to piece together the troubles of the past to understand the now. Having a friend to support you through this will help more than you know. It can protect you from feeling like you're not in control of your own life due to old transgressions and what your elders experienced. When you go through a tough time, it either consumes you, or elevates you, and a support system is the thin line between them.
3. Get detailed about your ideal world!
Lives that have already been experienced in our family line can make it seem like we have the same destiny. This causes us to operate from mindsets which unintentionally hold us back from better as we may feel that it's not in the cards at all. When you sit down and visualize a better life down to the brand of herbal tea you'll favour, you're showing your subconscious mind that a healthier life is available. Open yourself up to the limitless improved thought patterns, and enhanced quality of life, and watch how these things flood in for you.
The hardest part of this whole journey is accepting that the grass will be greener where you water it. Even if it takes a village to do it, you'll see exactly why it's worth it.
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